Ah, social media. It’s brought about some of the best in humanity but also brought about new challenges we have to deal with.
Before, we only heard about all the things our friends are doing through catching up with them or by hearing it through other people.
Now, you just flip on your phone and can see all of the things everyone you’ve ever known are doing with their lives.
Sure, it would be nice to say to simply delete social media and never use it again, and that’s great for the people who can do that. However, not all of us can. Some people like social media or work in a career that needs it. This will be more of a balance when you have no choice but you still need to stay focused on your own life, even when the people around you are doing cool things.
Accepting your path
The first thing you need to accept is that everyone is on a different journey. We can’t all be on the same blueprint, because what would be the purpose?
When you look at successful people over time, you’ll see that every single one of them had a different journey. Some found success at 18, some became successful in their 60’s. Some with a family, some without. Some with parents some without. You get the idea.
Knowing what YOU want
On this site, I’ve said time and time again that the most important part of life is to know what YOU want. Not what your parents want for you, not what your teachers want, not what your friends want, not what your partner wants… What YOU want.
A lot of us turn to social media instead of facing those hard questions and thoughts. Every time we feel uncomfortable or realize we’re unhappy where we are, we pop up those stimulating apps that distract us from that discomfort.
When you realize you’re falling into that pattern, it’s more important than ever to take a social media break and step back a bit.
Compare what you want to what you see
My career requires me to be on social media far too much (digital marketing), so I had to figure out a way to deal with this.
The best solution I have found is to notice when I’m feeling jealous or behind and ask myself:
* Am I actively working toward what I want?
* Is this thing I’m jealous over something I actually want?
The biggest thing I’ve realized is that when I’m not actively working toward what I want, it’s easy to become bitter when you see other people happy. (That’s also the case for every single troll on the internet.)
When you’re making progress every day toward what you want, you have little time to be jealous or upset. You’ll actually be happy for other people doing the same thing.
The second question helps you realize that so much of what we see online isn’t something we actually want. For example, if you saw your friend giving a speech to a huge crowd and you were a little envious, ask yourself if public speaking is even something you want.
Avoid self-sabotage thinking
It’s so easy to get caught in a downward spiral of feeling like there’s something wrong with you when you see other people succeeding. This is especially true if you see people achieving the things that you have on your own goal list.
Remember that the things you already have, someone in the world is praying to have. You’re blessed in different ways, whether you see those blessing or not. Someone would kill for your life.
Stay focused on what you want, remind yourself that your life path will be unique, and take note of how far you’ve come.