Most of us are taught that life is better when we have less struggles, but I’ve learned over the past few years that embracing our struggles is important to living a fulfilling life.
I have found that the more we avoid our problems, the more we struggle when we encounter them.
There is a mental difference between:
“Oh no, not another problem.”
“Ah! A problem! Yes! Come here so I can solve you.”
It is within challenges where we meet our own weaknesses.
When I am meeting the weaker parts of myself I feel the tension between who I am and who I want to be.
When I feel myself wanting to quit, to throw in the towel, to abandon a project simply because it is getting harder, that is where I get to see my own faults.
The past few years have been testing me.
There always seems to be roadblocks and hurdles to what I’m trying to accomplish, and I know many people feel the same way about their lives, too. It feels like running uphill without ever hitting at least a plateau.
I thought at a certain point, life would get easier.
“When I moved here…”
“When I get this job…”
“When I graduated college…”
“When I started my own business…”
With each new venture, there always seems to be more hurdles, but with each hurdle I get to see where I have a chance to strengthen. I have another chance to prove to myself that I can do something I never thought possible.
I know who I want to be. I know what I want. If I quit, I won’t ever get to where I want to be. I’ll spend the rest of my life wondering “What if?”.
(In case you didn’t know, the “What if?” question is one of the mental layers of hell, so keep yourself as far away from that as possible.)
When you find yourself stuck, ask yourself if beating this hurdle will get you closer to where you want to be.
If the answer is no, then that’s up to you to keep going or not.
If the answer is yes, then prepare for war and go win.